By Loc Hoang
If you always feel that you could have done it better or aren’t satisfied with what you are having, doing, and have achieved, you are having the feeling of not being “good enough.”
Nowadays, adults tend to teach younger people to compare themselves with others, ranging from educational achievements to life attainments. Growing up filled with these competitive thoughts makes teenagers and college students’ feel suffocated and overwhelmed, leading to unhappy lives. So, in this post, we’ll explain how to make oneself feel good enough to have a healthy and better life.
Stop Comparing Yourself with Others
Once you start to compare yourself with others, you devalue your worth and greatness. Everyone has different strengths and weaknesses, so the comparison is only making oneself feel inadequate.
I used to compare myself with other classmates. I wanted to have excellent grades in chemistry class like them, making me feel jealous and angry. I blamed myself and thought that I was inferior. In those years, I lost myself in comparison. I was not aware of my self-worth until I found that I had an incredibly creative mind that other students did not have.
So, the first step is to stop comparing yourself with others; instead, you should connect with others with positive characteristics to determine your strengths and weaknesses.
Self-love means that you accept and love who you really are, including your greatness and weakness. When you have unconditional love with yourself, you will stop giving yourself negative judgments, and you will not live up to others’ perceptions of you. You are enough. It is essential to know that you should only seek approval from yourself. “You are perfect. To think anything less is as pointless as a river thinking that it’s got too many curves or that it moves too slowly or that its rapids are too rapid,” said Jen Sincero, the author of the book “You are a Badass.”
Creating personal boundaries is one way to protect you from uncomfortable situations and help you manifest your self-love practicing process. Why are boundaries important? “Personal boundaries set the basic guidelines of how you want to be treated. […] It can ensure that relationships can be mutually respectful, appropriate, and caring,” according to the article “What Are Personal Boundaries and Why Are They Important?” posted by Tracy Hutchinson, Ph.D. People with boundaries know how to treat themselves properly, making themselves satisfied with what they have, and that is the feeling of being enough.
Don’t Let Strangers’ Achievements Posted on Social Media Affect You
Obviously, some people are affected and rushed by people’s posts on social media. Those people post their perfect and gorgeous moments that render others feeling jealous and dominated.
I used to have a female friend that always was influenced by posts on Instagram. She wanted to look fancy, go shopping, travel, and have meals at fine dining restaurants like her friends. So, she dated a rich guy to afford those activities. She would risk doing anything to make herself look like a wealthy girl. Nothing felt enough for her; then, she became broke after being abandoned by her boyfriend due to her artificial life. She was struggling and led an unhappy life.
It is a trap because no one will post their lowest moments on social media. So, don’t believe or rush yourself according to someone’s virtual life. You are greater than that; you have to believe in yourself and your extraordinary abilities. Also, you should always be blessed and happy for the life you are living. Feeling enough is very crucial to avoid being miserable.
Giving Yourself a Thumbs-up on Every Win
Don’t take everything for granted. Everything that you achieve is worth your efforts, no matter how big or small that achievement is. When you take all of your wins for granted, you will think that you could have attained bigger results. That is the moment that you reject your awesomeness and greatness, making your life unhappy. Jen Sincero said that “everything you do along your journey contributes to where you’re going.” Small efforts, achievements, or steps are great and worth your celebration.
Celebration keeps your “motivation and self-confidence up,” according to the article “13 Things to Remember When You Think You’re Not Good Enough” by Henrik Edberg via positivityblog.com. You have to feel enough to feel whole and happy. Appreciating every win means you appreciate your attempts and even you.
REMEMBER: You have to learn to feel enough about yourself; not everyone is perfect. You were born with joy and happiness, so don’t un-love yourself. You are the work in progress. You will become better and successful, meaning that you shouldn’t compare your life with anyone else.
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